How to spot a scam on dating apps
Scammers spend weeks building trust before they ask for money, an investment or photos. Once you know the pattern, it's easy to see.
The golden rule
Never send money, gift cards, codes or cryptocurrency to someone you haven't met in person – however good the story is.
The most common types of scam
Romance scams
A fake profile quickly shows strong feelings and talks about a future together. Once the bond is strong, a crisis appears that only your money can solve.
Investment and crypto scams
The person tells you about a platform or crypto product that has made them successful and helps you get started. The gains on screen are fake, and the money can't be withdrawn.
Sextortion
The conversation quickly turns intimate and you're asked for photos or video. Afterwards, the person threatens to share them unless you pay.
The sudden crisis
A hospital stay, a customs fee, a frozen bank account or a ticket home. The amount is "just a loan" and often has to be paid by gift card or transfer.
Fake links and codes
You get a link to a "verification" or are asked to read out a code from a text message. It's an attempt to take over your account or your bank.
How a scam usually unfolds
- 1
The contact
A profile with great, often professional photos and an impressive job, frequently abroad.
- 2
The trust
Lots of messages, big compliments and fast feelings. You feel seen.
- 3
Off the app
The person quickly wants to move to WhatsApp, Telegram or another app where we can't help you.
- 4
The opportunity or the crisis
Now comes the investment, the loan or the emergency – always with a deadline.
- 5
The pressure
If you hesitate, the person gets hurt or angry, and you're asked not to tell anyone.
Warning signs
- The person quickly wants to move the conversation to another app.
- There is always a reason not to meet or video call.
- Feelings move very fast – big words after a few days.
- The story changes, or details about their job and home don't add up.
- The conversation turns to cryptocurrency, trading or a "safe" investment.
- The person asks for money, gift cards or help with a payment – often because of a sudden crisis.
- You're asked to keep the relationship or the money secret.
- You're asked for intimate photos early in the conversation.
How to protect yourself
- Never send money or codes to someone you haven't met.
- Stay in the app's chat until you've met.
- Ask for a video call and look for the verification tick.
- Do a reverse image search if the photos seem too perfect.
- Don't click links, and never read out a code you've received by text.
- Talk to a friend before making any decision about money.
How EliteDulce helps
Warnings in chat
Your phone warns you when a conversation mentions transfers, loans, crypto or investments.
Photo verification
The blue tick shows that the person in the photos has taken a matching selfie.
A check before you share contact details
Before you share your number, we remind you of the signs of a scam.
We watch for patterns
Profiles that send the same message to many people are detected and reviewed.
If it has happened
It's not your fault. Scammers are professionals, and it happens to smart, experienced people. The faster you act, the better.
- 1Stop all payments and contact your bank straight away.
- 2Don't reply to any more messages, and never pay to have photos deleted.
- 3Save messages, the profile name and receipts as evidence.
- 4Report the profile in the app and choose scam as the reason.
- 5Report it to the police.
Suspect a scam?
Report the profile in the app. The person will never know it was you.