Can I message someone before we match?
Yes. Send a Swipe Note with your like and your message is always shown to them. With a First Impression you appear at the top.
Updated 5 November 2026
Yes. With a Swipe Note you send a short message together with your like. A like with a message is always shown to the person, even if they do not have a subscription.
How to send a Swipe Note
Tap a profile card to see the whole profile.
Tap Send a Swipe Note, or like a specific photo or answer on the profile.
Write your message (up to 300 characters) or pick one of the suggestions, and send your like.
First Impression: be seen first
Choose Send as Priority and your like appears at the top of their Likes. This uses a First Impression. EliteDulce Platinum gives you First Impressions every week, and you can also buy them as a pack.
Good to know
If they like you back, your message becomes the first one in your conversation.
A Swipe Note is free as standard. If messages before a match require a subscription for a period, the app tells you before you send.
Messages about payment or gifts in exchange for company are blocked.
Matches and messages
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